Being back from Malaysia is never easy. The jet lag is really making me very miserable this time. It’s still very difficult to stay awake. I feel tired, sleepy and hungry all the time. I am sleeping like about 14 hours almost everyday since I came back, waking up every now and then in between to eat! This is the first time I travelled so far all alone and on a cold season. I count it as a great achievement…..happy! It was wonderful to be back in Aberdeen with my family but greeted by 4 degrees Celcius on landing is no fun. That makes me want to sleep all the more! Really hope I will get over with this whole misery soon. Still trying to smile!
Taking Care Of My Elderly Parents
The main reason I went back this time was because my dad had to go through an eye operation for cataract, his second time. I promised him months ago I would be back. My sister also hoped that I could take care of him for a while after the operation. The appointment was done quite quickly and the laser treatment lasted only a few minutes! That was phenomenal!
But I have never taken care of elderly folks. I was seldom at home ever since I got married. Taking care of my elderly parents would be a real challenge. It was a real learning lesson. It took me much courage and strength but real joy to be able to be with my parents and took care of them for 2 weeks. It wasn’t that difficult at all. We had a live-in maid to cook and wash so I had all the time to talk to them, joke with them and listen to their many interesting stories of long time past.
No Internet, No Shopping, No Local Food To Enjoy
My mom is suffering from quite bad Alzheimer’s disease. Both my parents are 80 years old and very close to each other. But with the cruel disease, my mom would not let my dad rest. It happened the previous time. So, this trip, I was back to babysit both of them! There was no internet there and everyone was away and working, so I was with my parents almost the whole time. I hardly went out shopping or eating all the local food that I wanted to. Was I miserable? No! I was fully devoted to them. It was a real pleasure and delight. This is one of the best trip that I had, very fruitful in all ways and achieved my purpose of going back.
I have lots to share but in this post I will focus on my dad. Will share more on how I successfully coped with my mom and her Alzheimer’s condition in another post.
Nature Has The Best Solution
My dad still has sharp thoughts but is on several types of medication. He had to take drugs for his bladder problem, skin problem (itchiness), high blood pressure (not really high), his feet (swelling) and now his eyes (antibiotics). I was horrified! All drugs are chemicals and long term use is harmful for health. No wonder his health is getting worse each time I went back. Given a choice I would go natural. I believe that nature has the best solution. I always believe what Hippocrates, The Father Of Medicine, said, ‘Our food should be our medicine and our medicine should be our food’. The best is to eat healthy and live a healthy lifestyle so that our bodies are strong enough to heal by itself. With all the read-ups on natural healing that I gained all these years, I was determined to help dad wean off some of his medications.
Note that it’s important to check out with your doctor if you are on medication before embarking on any natural healing therapies. Doctors are still very important, especially in serious cases.
Ginger To Stop Itchiness
The second day I reached home, my right leg broke out in heat rash. My gosh…it was so itchy! Cooling ointment didn’t work. I saw a piece of old ginger. I thought that would probably work. I sliced 2 pieces and rubbed on the problem area. The rough face of the ginger slices brought such a relief. The heat from the ginger just stopped the itch….phew! Each time it started itching, I ran for the ginger. This must be a blessing in disguise.
The next day, my dad had some itchiness on his neck. There were little red swellings. I explained him all the harmful effects of taking so many drugs and handed him 2 slices of ginger. It worked!!! He was so happy. The next moment I saw that my mom was also using it. Both of them were enjoying rubbing their hands, neck, head and even face using the ginger pieces!! Looking at them, I was totally amused! They love the warm feeling from the ginger. I’m sure the rubbing promotes blood circulation and is good for them. What a simple, effective natural cure! In fact dad stopped taking his medication for itchiness after that.
Baby Oil For Dry Skin
Dad also has very dry, paper thin skin that gets bruised or bleeding easily if scratched. He uses medicated cream to apply everyday. I bought him a non-greasy baby oil to apply at least twice a day and it worked. The skin is not as dry and tight after a few days use and he stopped the medicated cream, too.
Drinking Enough Water Is Important
Then the bladder medication. He has been having bladder problem for a long time. I told him about the need for lots of water especially in a hot country like Malaysia. He insisted that he drinks enough water but to me I felt he didn’t.
I explained to him what a Canadian natural healing doctor told me a few years ago. His clinic is full of bottles of water. Any time a patient walks into his clinic, he would pass him/her 2 big bottles of water for free and asked him/her to drink that amount everyday for a week. Otherwise they don’t have to come back and see him. He said that most of the sicknesses were gone before the week is up!
Dad listened attentively. So I made a fairly big pot of herbal detox tea and put it on a small table beside him while he was resting. I made that a couple of times a day. It can hold about 4 cups. He would drink 3 cups while mom would drink 1 cup. On top of that he has to drink more plain water. After a few days, he felt his bladder problem improved. Hope he can stop his medication soon.
Dad was quite weak when I went back. The antibiotics made it worse. I explained to him how antibiotics kill the friendly bacteria in our intestines and can cause our bodies to become weak. It’s often obvious in kids when they are on antibiotics. Sometimes they come down with diarrhoea and sometimes their bodies will feel cold. I always travel with several sachets of probiotics. This time I had about 10 sachets with me so I gave him 2 sachets a day. That helped to replenish back the friendly bacteria killed by the antibiotics. Dad actually enjoyed taking them.
Tonic Chicken Soup
To help dad gain strength, I bought a few black fleshed chicken. Mom used to tell us that these chicken are very nutritious, more nutritious than the normal free range ones. She often cooked tonic soup with them when we were young. As usual, I added red dates and wolf berries. I also added chopped big onions and carrots which I thought would be good for his eyes and skin. Mom and dad loved the soup very much and drank it everyday. We had a live-in maid so cooking and cleaning was easy. Within a few days, dad said that he felt stronger. I could see that he could walk a little faster and more steadily. He told me that before I went back he felt like walking 2 steps backward when he wanted to take a step forward! I’m really glad that the soup helped.
Mom and dad love to eat fruits. I bought local fruits for them. Local fruits are always the best as they are higher in nutrients as compared to imported ones and much cheaper too. Each day, they will have a few servings of fruits, mainly pomelo, papaya (pawpaw) and bananas.
Barley Green Powder
I brought back barley green for them. It’s in powder form made into capsules so it’s easy for them to take. They have to take once a day too. Barley green is very high in chlorophyll, vitamins, minerals, detoxifying compounds and is a powerful antioxidant. It’s an excellent source of nutrition for everyone. It’s an effective way to make sure that my parents get enough nutrients that’s found in fresh vegetables. My whole family takes barley green everyday, too.
Prop Up Legs And Simple Exercise And Massage
When I arrived home, I was shocked to see that both dad’s feet were quite badly swollen. I took him to see a Chinese doctor and not the conventional one as I won’t want another drug given to him. It was a relief that it was not kidney problem. The doctor said that his body was weak and gave him some powdered medication made from herbs. He needs to prop up his legs when he is resting. I taught him some simple ankle and leg exercises and massage his feet gently too, everyday. It really helped to bring the swelling down. A blood test confirms that it’s not kidney or liver problem. With more water and more nutritious food, the swelling has subsided a lot, even without further medication.
Love, Gentleness And Patience
I must say that I’m really happy to be back home this time and was able to be with my parents all the time to help them and see their conditions improve without more medications. It takes a lot of love, gentleness and patience to explain to them and do things for them while laughter and prayers are my strength and wisdom for each day. It’s really not easy to take care of elderlies but when we look at them from a different perspective, they are actually very adorable and often make me laugh. For all that they have done for us, they really deserve all the love and care. I always miss them and hope to see them again soon.
It is Possible At Last
I was in Sibu for only a few days and then successfully took my parents to my eldest sister’s place in another town. This has been the most challenging task, close to impossible all these years. The best for them is to stay with her as they will be well taken care of. Will share more on how my influencing skills worked in another post.
Do you have any simple and natural cures to share?
Quote of the day……
“Our food should be our medicine and our medicine should be our food.”