Have you felt on top of the world to meet certain people while feeling right at the bottom of the pit to meet some others? Or have you felt frustrated, disappointed and confused to meet others? I am very sure you have some very good and some very bad experiences with people. I have. People around you can make you or break you.
As you go through life, you find that you just cannot avoid meeting people unless you want to live an isolated life like a hermit. However you can definitely improve your life and minimise or avoid the many pitfalls when it comes to dealing with people. To do that, you need to recognise that there are:
4 Types Of People In Your Life
- Those that like you and will not be persuaded to dislike you
This group of people are like diamonds to you. They will stick to you through thick and thin and believe in you even during times when you make mistakes. They act like pillars to your life. When life deals a big blow to you, they will be there for you while others walk away. Hold tight to them and really treasure them. There are not many around.
- Those that like you but can be persuaded to dislike you
This group of people do not have a strong backbone. They are ones that generally care for themselves and live selfishly. They will swing to whichever sides that offer them greater benefits and betray you for that. They can be very nice to you and say all nice things about you and treat you well but in the split of a second they can turn their back on you, stab you and cause you much miseries. They are easily influenced by others. Be very careful with this group of people. You can’t really believe them for their words. You don’t have to treat them badly in return. Continue to treat them well but draw a line.
- Those that dislike you but can be persuaded to like you
This is another group of people who do not have a strong backbone. They are easily persuaded so you do not know when they are going to dislike you again. You must know why they dislike you in the first place and why they like you now. Is there any ulterior motives or benefits that they see in a relationship with you? Take time to know them very well. They have to earn your trust.
- Those that dislike you and will not be persuaded to like you
There are some people who will never like you no matter how hard you try to like them. They may accept your gifts and services but they do not wish to have anything to do with you. A lot of time they use you for their own benefits. Don’t waste your time on such people. Don’t feel bad. It’s not your fault. You did not do anything wrong. Forget about them and move on. If you are working in an organisation, this commonly happens. But remember the key rule of a victorious life - do your best, show good attitude and treat others well without expecting anything in return.
When you learn to open your eyes to watch, your heart to discern and your ears to hear, you will find that your heart will become bigger and stronger to face the different types of people. You will know who to treasure and who to forget. You won’t get hurt easily. It becomes easier for you to move on when people do you injustice, evil or betray you. Always treasure those who have shown you sincere friendship, their love, kindness and support when others leave you, disappoint you and fail you. Always care and show kindness. You don’t have to take revenge. Remember, ‘you reap what you sow’. Remember too that you can’t please everyone and not everyone likes you.
Keep learning, keep smiling as you progress to become more loving and wiser in life.
Thought of the day……
“The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That’s the day we truly grow up.”